At certain times during everyone’s life, they find themselves wanting to give up, scream at the top of their lungs, or crawl into a ball, forever blocking off the outside world. I have been in all of these places, I’m sure we all have. It’s during the times like these, the times when everything seems hardest, and impossible to overcome, that we must remind ourselves what we are working toward. Whether you have dreams and goals that you want to see accomplished, or loved ones that you want to care for, and be your best for, there is always something that you can be working toward. It doesn’t have to be money, it doesn’t have to be anything flashy, but having something to look forward to is sometimes all you need.
When the world is looking dark, it can be really hard to stay positive, and you may even have moments when you give in to certain vices, which will weigh on you more, but taking a step back and looking at the bigger picture can really help.
Think about all that you’ve gone through, and you’re still here. Think about all of the problems you’ve faced in the past, and how hard they seemed at the time, and you’re still here. Sometimes in life, it can seem like the deck is stacked against us, but it’s important to remember that even if the odds are not in your favor, what you’re working for is worth it, and worth you fighting for it.
Every day matters, and every day that you’re too hard on yourself because you think you’re failing, is another day that you are, in reality, failing yourself. The hardest battle most of us will ever face in life is against that voice in the back of your head. The doubt, the fear, the anxiety, but when good things happen in life, that voice always gets quieter. If the things you’re working for make you feel good about yourself, and make you feel like a contributing member of society, having a positive impact on our world, then you’re already winning the battle against your worst enemy.
I truly believe in karma, and I even had a run-in with someone the other day, that proved as a happy reminder. It was a hot day, and I was walking into a local fast food joint to get a drink. As I crossed the parking lot, I had my head down, texting. With a hat and sunglasses on, focused on my phone, the older gentleman coming up on my 5:00 didn’t think I noticed him just a few feet behind me. I reached the door, just a few steps ahead of him, and to his surprise, I slipped my phone into my pocket, grabbed the door, and held it open for him.
He looked like I had just blown his mind. “After you,” I said kindly. He smiled and entered. Then, as he was about to get in line, he paused, and offered for me to go ahead of him. I graciously refused, as I was still deciding what I wanted to get, and the man just looked at me. I had been walking for a little bit, and it was a really hot day, so I was all sweaty and gross, and at this point, this guy felt like he still had not done enough.
"I’ll be right back," he said as he crossed past me. "I have some coupons in my car. Maybe I can save you some money."
"Thanks," I replied, equally stunned by his good gesture. "I really appreciate that." A moment later, he returned, and I let him order while I looked over the coupons. I didn’t end up using any of them, but I thanked him once again and returned the coupons, as to make sure they didn’t go to waste (maybe he could pay them forward to someone else) and we wished each other a good day, going our separate ways.
It wasn’t much effort on either of our parts, but that small gesture made a huge impact on my day, and I’m sure it did on his as well. By being positive and being a decent human being, it serves as a reminder of the more basic happiness that we can also achieve. Even if you don’t feel like you’re making progress in your aspirations, being a good person can also leave you feeling good, and give you the strength to move forward. It’s important to never give up, and always keep goals in mind, especially when they seem the most unachievable.
Every one of the greats, throughout history, has been great because they had risen above adversity. They have pushed boundaries, and they have changed the world in doing so, in their own unique ways. Never give up on your dreams, and never give up on yourself, because even though you may seem alone in this world, you are so much more than that, if you only let yourself soar.
It’s not about doing everything right, or hoping for the best, but in reality, it’s about making the best of a bad situation, or making something from nothing. In order to truly be great, you have to know what it feels like not to be. You have to take all of that emotion, and all of the lessons you’ve learned along the way, and focus it. Make it what drives you. Channel it into positive, creative energy that you can use to make your world a better place.
None of us will be around forever, and with the limited time we all have on this planet, we should try to be our best, and work to make the most of every opportunity, as well as every mistake. You have to take the good with the bad, but how you take it can help define you. You’ve made it this far in life, and you’ve already learned so much. No matter how old you are, or how much “life experience” you have, if you realize your potential, you can do anything.
It’s not about your fifteen minutes of fame, or making a fortune. It’s about making the most of what you have. It’s about living up to your potential. It’s about spreading a positive message, and overcoming the darkness that can eat away at you when you are at your worst.
For each of us, there is something different that makes us happy, but as long as we never lose focus on what that is, and we always work toward that happiness, you can take all of that negative energy and focus it into your work, into your drive. Let it strengthen you and just do what you can to be a good person, and I really believe that in time, you will see your goals come to fruition. When you lose hope of that is when you find yourself dangling over the pit of despair, and the only person that can life you out is you.
I’m not trying to be preachy or anything, and if you got this far, good for you, but if you learned anything, or are now open to a different perspective, take that energy and do positive things with it! Go out and make your dreams a reality, and give yourself that realistic chance at happiness you deserve.